Relationship Red Flags
Common Traits of Abusers:
An abuser may be pleasant and charming between periods of violence and is often seen as a "nice person" to others outside the relationship.
A majority of abusers are only abusive with their current or previous intimate partners.
An abuser often denies the existence or minimizes the seriousness of the violence and its effect on the victim and other family members.
An abuser objectifies the victim and often sees them as their property or sexual object.
An abuser often has low self-esteem and feels powerless and ineffective in the world. They may appear successful, but internally, they feel inadequate.
Blames Abuse on External Factors
An abuser externalizes the causes of their behavior. They blame their violence on circumstances such as stress, their partner's behavior, a "bad day," on alcohol, drugs, or other factors.
Anyone Can Be an Abuser